Hello everyone, this is Thöriniel. This is my first time updating my work directly here and this time, I will be talking on Gender based violence.
However I collaborated with a very good friend of mine who provided the artwork.
Read, enjoy and share!
Born into the world amidst pain but welcomed with joy. Unsure of her path in life, what exactly will be her fate, will her ways be different from the others or will she follow the same path , same path already walked by others, the path laid in the mud of abuse, dejection, betrayal and hurt, her only sin ”she was born female”
A female child with the heavy weight of gender being placed on her shoulders for in this part of the world irrespective of the times and education as well as exposure much is placed on the value of male children as opposed to female children.
Oh! I wish it was the other way around, if wishes were horses and donkeys could fly, perhaps only then will my fears be assuaged and worries calmed for then will be valued irrespective of the gender.
Growing up, we are taught, females to know their place in society- beside her man.
We were also told that certain things in the eyes of tradition and culture were sacrosanct .
Things like her innocence;
“Guard it” the elders would always warn, “it is your pride!”
Women she turned to for advice offered wisdom, counselling the importance of her innocence, for it was meant to be treasured and cherished by the man she ought to love.
But then tragedy struck and fate dealt her cruel hand .
On a fateful day, a day with the markings of every other normal day without the slightest hint of warning or alarm that day, she was abused and so her innocence was broken, her treasure stolen. Taken by the very hands that she looked to for protection and provision.
“Don’t tell your mother, let this be our little secret…”
Cursed is the man who defiles his seed!
So a she kept it a secret, she told not a soul as she suffered the pain. It became the chain that held her heart captive for it took away her joy and laughter – the right of every growing child.
She convinced herself that it was a one-off event, went as far as living in denial; convinced herself the abuse and neglect were but a dream, all so that she could move on and lead a normal life.
And so she continued her daily struggles despite the past that seeks to catch up with her and ruin the present as well as her future.
Finally she finds love or so she thinks in the arms of a handsome stranger, a man whose sugar-coated lips spewed lies and deceit that captured her broken and fragile heart.
All she asked for was to be loved, a love that will wipe away all her tears, heal her pain and soothe her fears.
Love that will offer assurances that the future is indeed bright and not the dark and bleak one that stared at her in the face.
But that was not to be as once she is being used, Used like some object of no worth or value whatsoever.
So she ended up being betrayed; betrayed by the very men who swore to love and protect her and even the society as no one believed her nor knew the pain in her heart nor the silent war that raged inside her.
Every day comes with grief, grief that leaves her forever haunted by both the past and the present as well as a future so unsure. Despite it all, she is able to smile through the pain like a rock that smiles at the storm.
Through the tears that were shed in the rain she hopes to find strength; a strength so strong that would keep her rosy chin up, pushing her to move past the hurt and injustice meted out to her .
She hopes that one day she will be EMANCIPATED and find freedom as she breaks free and is no longer a captive of the prison that holds her down.
She hopes that one day her voice will be heard and her story read aloud not only for the cause of justice but rather that through her, others that of the same spirit will find solace for their broken heart and spirit.
For it has become a reality that she will never find love, for life pushes love beyond her reach .
Thus, for her, LOVE HAS BECOME NOTHING BUT A VAGUE ILLUSION.
P.S: This body of words is dedicated to the girl child and women who have endured one form of abuse or the other.
– Violence against women – particularly intimate partner violence and sexual violence – is a major public health problem and a violation of women’s human rights.
– Global estimates published by WHO indicate that about 1 in 3 (35%) of women worldwide have experienced either physical and/or sexual intimate partner violence or non-partner sexual violence in their lifetime.
– Most of this violence is intimate partner violence. Worldwide, almost one third (30%) of women who have been in a relationship report that they have experienced some form of physical and/or sexual violence by their intimate partner in their lifetime.
– Globally, as many as 38% of murders of women are committed by a male intimate partner.
– Violence can negatively affect women’s physical, mental, sexual, and reproductive health, and may increase the risk of acquiring HIV in some settings.
– Men are more likely to perpetrate violence if they have low education, a history of child maltreatment, exposure to domestic violence against their mothers, harmful use of alcohol, unequal gender norms including attitudes accepting of violence, and a sense of entitlement over women.
– Women are more likely to experience intimate partner violence if they have low education, exposure to mothers being abused by a partner, abuse during childhood, and attitudes accepting violence, male privilege, and women’s subordinate status.
– There is evidence that advocacy and empowerment counselling interventions, as well as home visitation are promising in preventing or reducing intimate partner violence against women.
– Situations of conflict, post conflict and displacement may exacerbate existing violence, such as by intimate partners, as well as and non-partner sexual violence, and may also lead to new forms of violence against women.